The Power Of 3.

While looking at this photo, I asked my daughters what subject I should write about & use it for. They said it should be about our strength as mom & daughters. Also, about our love for each other.

Nothing could be more fitting.

However, if you've been around here, I think you're aware (by now). If you haven't, please catch up on older content. I'm so excited to have you here!

Instead, I'll keep this post short-ish & sweet with a little single mom encouragement.

1. Don't try to be a martyr. Delegate tasks & allow others to help you. You CANNOT do everything yourself!

2. Be honest with your children. Listen… these two girls have my back like no one else. Their love for me is unconditional even on my worst days. Therefore, I'm honest with them about what's going on, my feelings, mistakes, etc., as is appropriate. We're a team & do our best to act accordingly.

3. So what if you're single?! You & your children can blossom despite that. Lead them by taking care of your overall well-being, by healing, by pursuing what your soul is passionate about, & by doing it all courageously. Our children emulate what they see/experience in their environment.

4. IF at all possible, create a good rapport between yourself & the other parent. I don't know your situation but where our babies are concerned, we must put ego aside. There's no time to allow it to govern our lives.

   Kids grow up so quickly that if you blink, you'll miss it. Therefore, wasting time being bitter, angry, vengeful, etc., means you'll DEFINITELY miss the best moments. Set boundaries but heal, moms & dads, HEAL.

   You do that by being mature & open enough to face your own ish just as well as you point out that of the other person. Therapy is a great choice if you can afford it. If not, read books, meditate, pray, exercise, eat better… do the necessary research! Google is your friend.

5. Listen to what your children have to say. As things steadily change for us, I'll always have my girls' best interests FIRST in mind. That's something they know they can count on.

   Their opinions matter to me no matter the issue. We'll never go where they're not comfortable. We'll never do anything they're strongly against. And when it comes to people, no one will enter or stay in our lives without their approval.

   I've mentioned this somewhere before, but it's rare for my daughters to dislike or reject ANYone. They're two of the most accepting & loving people I know. Therefore, if they're against you, it's for good reason & something you deserve.

   As a mother, it's my duty & right to protect my children at all costs. That means from family, friends, & strangers alike-especially if one's character is questionable. I do this fiercely & always will.

Remember, the same way you can be in a relationship & win, you can be single & do the same. Lean on your supports & stay vigilant in your endeavors. Above all else, HAVE FUN & enjoy your life! All I've mentioned here is how I've learned to thrive throughout this past year.

You can, too. <3

(Images by Katie Smith Photography)